Corona Diaries Day 7 — My Dark Moments, My Better Moments

This is part of a series of posts chronicling the Coronavirus / Covid19 outbreak in New York City as seen by me, a father husband and lawyer living in Brooklyn. See them all on the main Corona Diaries page.

March 20, 2020

No school today, the teachers were taking a minute to regroup, so we were largely on our own.

Honestly, it was easier. I’ve noticed  that  the most stressful part is getting the kids to focus / deal with the tech issues of getting them through the day. Without those, it was actually easiert.

Got in a very short run (1 mile). It still feels like there are too many people out there. One of the joys of NYC is that  it is an uncontrollable mess, but in times like these it becomes clear that it is really fundamentally is nothing more then an uncontrollable mess.

In my dark moments  I think there’s no way out but through — we are going to loose lots and lots of people and what I need to do is keep my kids safe. Nothing more is possiible.

In my better moments  I think we’re learning many lessons from other places (Italy, Spain) and we’ll actually come out better.

I don’t know which is correct. I do know we need to keep it small, whether it is for our healthy or all of society, we need to continue like this, however hard it is, to remain physically distant while close socially.

Not an easy task.

Corona Diaries Day 6 — 2 Kids, 2 Careers

This is part of a series of posts chronicling the Coronavirus / Covid19 outbreak in New York City as seen by me, a father husband and lawyer living in Brooklyn. See them all on the main Corona Diaries page.

March 19, 2020

Tough one to get through today. Spent basically all day alone with the kids, the mornings aren’t  bad, it’s basically managing logistics, but the afternoons are tough. Just too much free time in a (suddenly very small) apartment. Its easy to loose your temper on your kids in this environment and I did today. Not proud of it, but here we are.

Meditation helps. And I’ve found time for that the last two days. Need to do it much much more. Tune out the crazy, get more in touch with what I can control.

It’s a crazy moment in world history to live through, massive events are happening, everyday, and yet it is also all so completely mundane for people like me. Long, long hours stuck inside with your kids while the world falls apart outside.

I may be completely wrong, but I think we’ll on the other side of this in about 18 months  to two years. That’s a long time, for sure, but not the end of the world.

The next bit will be the hardest — we will see awful things — but I feel pretty confident that not only will my family survive, we will thrive. We’re reasonably anti-fragile, but need to become more so. More debt free, better able to relocate quickly, better prepared.

 

Corona Diaries Day 5 — What We Can, and Cannot, Control

This is part of a series of posts chronicling the Coronavirus / Covid19 outbreak in New York City as seen by me, a father husband and lawyer living in Brooklyn. See them all on the main Corona Diaries page.

March 18, 2020

Yes, home schooling is stressful and yes, it is hard to focus and get work done when your kids are constantly demanding snacks and tech support, but still and all, today was a good day.

The kids have been basically great. Even though I barely leave the house, I am moving my body more than I have in a long long time. I meditated for the first time in more than a week and I’m keeping to my whole food plant based diet.

Yes, Western Society collapsing, but on the items I can control, I am doing great.

Here’s what I commit to doing, everyday:

  1. Run
  2. Body Weigh Work / flexibility
  3. Journal
  4. Meditate
  5. Read

    Right now, I need to focus on what I can control — my concentration, my fitness, my health. Do what you can today, and leave the things you cannot control where they are.

Corona Diaries Day 4 — Home with the Kids

This is part of a series of posts chronicling the Coronavirus / Covid19 outbreak in New York City as seen by me, a father husband and lawyer living in Brooklyn. See them all on the main Corona Diaries page.

March 17, 2020

St. Pats day, but it really doesn’t feel like it.

My first day home all day with the kids. Challenging, but also often joyful. I feel lucky that I have good, kind, kids. Yes they sometimes drive me crazy, but all in all, they’re a joy, and are getting along remarkable well.

I’ll admit that if I didn’t have the kids, this would be borderline relaxing. But then what would it all be for?

I’m trying to stay positive, trying to focus on what I can get done. Back into the meditation groove, somehow. Back into a running groove — that’s underway. Back into strength and flexibility — that’s just starting.

I’m hoping I come back from being away a better, fitter, person. That’s one thing in all this I can control.

Corona Diaries Day 3 — Last Day in the Office

This is part of a series of posts chronicling the Coronavirus / Covid19 outbreak in New York City as seen by me, a father husband and lawyer living in Brooklyn. See them all on the main Corona Diaries page.

March 16, 2020

This is a crazy, crazy, crazy anxiety producing time.

We’re in lockdown mode here at home. I had to go into the office today, but that was the last time in a long, long time, most likely. Rode my bike over the Brooklyn Bridge, normally crowded with tourists, but today empty except for a smattering of bike comuters. The souvenir guys were out, but with no one to sell to. I feel for them.

Went to work today thinking we had most everything solved. That night our staff were no longer going to be in the courts and there would no new supervised release intakes. Soon after, we learned that SR would be moving to a phone based check ins.

But then everything went sideways.

In the span of an hour we learned that one of our clients had been admitted to the hospital with a likely case of Covid19, and the cousin of another coworker had died  of the virus.

Boom. Everything changes.

We close the supervised release office  and send everyone home. We tell the landlord, even though we might loose our lease.

This is life during a pandemic,

But we think we have it under control, there’s an almost jocular atmosphere around the line staff — soon they too are all going to be going home.

But then, at 4pm, we learn our staff need to stay in the courts would have to stay until the end of the day Tuesday.

So we scramble again and our incredible staff step up, again, and miraculously, we cover it.

Meanwhile, E is at home with the kids. They have been angels, she says, and I believe her. We have a new sitter here who is wonderful, and great with the kids, but towards the end of the day, everyone, kids and adults, are getting ratty.

Then we get word from the school that two families with kids in the school have someone who has been diagnosed. Unclear if it’s grandparents or someone else — it isn’t kids — but that’s another vector. We’re going to get it, the question is when, and how bad.

We decide that after a single day, we’re not having the sitter back. Too risky to expose someone else to us, and us to someone else. It will be just the four of us starting tomorrow.

From here on out, I’m going to be juggling kids distance learning and work. In my downtime, such as it is, I plan to meditate, journal, read and exercise. I plan to not spend too much time on twitter or following the news with the kind of minute by minute focus I usually do. The big things will come to me naturally, perhaps I don’t need to know the rest.

 

Corona Diaries Day 1 – New York on a Early Spring Day

This is part of a series of posts chronicling the Coronavirus outbreak in New York City as seen by me, a father husband and lawyer living in Brooklyn. See them all on the main Corona Diaries page.

March 14, 2020

Going to try to do a daily recap of what I am seeing in Brooklyn as the Coronavirus / Covid19 crisis deepens. Things have been building for awhile, but now they’re really happening and today was shocking.

Schools are starting to close. My kids school announced  they were closing indefinitely and starting distance learning on Monday. But today, the stores resturants and bars were jamed  and Prospect Park was blanket to blanket. We’re clearly not yet in the place where we’re taking this seriously.

I went to grocery store  where the shelves were packed full except for cleaning products. Farmers market also just packed with people.

In the afternoon, L and I went for a walk with the Greenfields and saw no less than half a dozen people I knew. Then, late in the day, I took Levi for ice cream. A huge  line, but only one person working. Clearly, others had called in sick.

I got the creeps standing in this giant line for ice cream in a pandemic and we left. Levi cried all the way home telling me I’d broken a promise but there was no way we were just going to stand there with all those  people.